There are many articles written about how to tell if you are in the right relationship or not.
However, many women will base this idea on their feelings in the present moment. This isn’t exactly the best strategy for finding lasting love.
After all, your emotions probably change daily (and sometimes occasionally).
False positives can show up in your relationships every day, in the little habits you develop with each other.
But these are not reasons to stay in a relationship.
Here are three possible ‘false positive’ signs that are keeping you in a bad relationship:
1. You have good chemistry
It’s great when you and your guy just “click,” but it’s not a sign that you’re two or that your relationship is going to be great. Chemistry is really a feeling of connection and rapport you have with another person. That’s it.
Believe it or not, this is a skill you can learn, so you can have chemistry with anyone if you take the time to get to know them.
The problem is that so many people have such bad communication and conversation skills that they rarely feel that connection. After all, being with someone doesn’t mean you have romantic chemistry.
2. You have great sex
Great sex is an amazing part of a great relationship, but it’s not the only one. It just means that you two are good at sex. But that’s all.
Sex is also a skill, which means you learn it both.
Sure, sex feels good, and hopefully you’ll have lots of great sex with whoever you choose to settle down with, but that doesn’t mean you two are meant to be.
3. You have been together for a long time
Just because you stay together doesn’t mean you’ll be an ideal couple. Time is not the main factor in your perfect relationship.
Surely you’ve seen older couples, married for decades, who don’t particularly like each other, right? There was no joy or love, but neither of them was ready to leave the relationship. It was just a kind of pleasure that was taken from them. It’s clear that if being together for a long time is an indicator of a great relationship, these guys are going to be the happiest couple out there.
It takes more than relationship, sex, or time to make a good relationship, so good relationships must be built on stronger things like trust and commitment.
Make no mistake, what we have discussed in this article is not a bad thing. They’re not the only sign that you’ve reached relationship nirvana.
Take them as perks, but don’t see them as the main foundation of your relationship.
Clay Andrews is a relationship coach and founder of Attract the One. He specializes in helping people fix, save and build relationships.
